I watched an interview with Bruce Lipton yesterday. I had read his book The Biology of Belief a couple of years ago and when I saw that he would be speaking about the biology of spirituality I carved out the hour to watch. He is certainly an energetic speaker and can go on many tangents but his topic is fascinating, that we are not our genes. Environment matters. We have more influence than I grew up believing.
Part of this interview (which was through the health platform ph360), was focused on our unconscious mind and conscious mind. That 95% of the time we are operating from our unconscious because we are “busy” thinking in our conscious mind. We are going about our days thinking about the past, future, worries, things to do and not focused in the present.
The unconscious mind is running how we are behaving most of the time. The part that really struck home for me is that the programming of our habit-based unconscious mind was imprinted from when we were born until age 7.
My son is 7. What has he seen in my behaviours, my husbands, and the world around him?! That stopped me in my tracks for a moment. What ground have I helped to pave for him that will be the basis of his behaviours for most of his life? Yikes!
I have tried my best to teach understanding, kindness, I think! Although I’m not perfect and what programming have I unknowingly passed on to him? My marriage is going through a difficult time. We don’t have yelling fights but what tense moments has he absorbed?
I am trying to think back to my first 7 years of life. I don’t have lots of memories from that time frame. I have struggled with self-esteem, anxiety, and being too critical. Is that the programming I experienced? Of course not all of it. I had a stable base for childhood but it was very lonely.
I still have years to be more conscious, to work harder on not downloading my programming (or to stop as much as I can) onto my son and daughter.