Finding a Voice

In trying to figure out the focus of my blog, I was thinking about what I like in other blogs I love.  The biggest feature is the feeling of the blog.  It’s that I feel like I’m getting a glimpse into another person’s life, their struggles, successes, and just daily thought process.

It doesn’t have to be beautiful (although I appreciate the effort they do to make it look nice) but it’s more about a connection that comes through.  Sometimes I can relate to the same experiences and sometimes it’s just an honest look someone else’s experiences that I can really appreciate.

The hard part?  Getting to the point of having my own voice.  I have read A LOT about writing, especially for blogs and the advice really is just start.  I’ve struggled with that over the last few years.  I purchased my domain and then have flip-flopped in my mind about what to do in this space.  I have lots of ideas but I often feel stuck in trying to organize them into something coherent and interesting.

One of the things that I realized through learning my MBTI type (I’m an ENFP), is that I like to process my thoughts out loud.  THAT is what helps give me clarity.  How do I do that?  I’ve been trying to have things more perfect or at least acceptable before I start writing.  But I think what I need to do is just focus on getting ALL or many of my ideas out of my head into this space and as I do that the clarity will come.

It’s as I’ve read many times.  Show up.  Write.  Do the work first.  This is what I need to do to find my voice!

Connecting the Dots

I have a jumble of thoughts today about self-awareness or trying to figure out my own personality types and characteristics.  I’ve always struggled to take a test and figure out my type in the big ones like MBTI or the Enneagram.  It has only been in the last few years that I really researched different tests and read so much about them that I finally stumbled upon my types and it felt so liberating after so much frustration.

I am an ENFP (although just barely on the Extrovert side of things) and an Enneagram type 4.  There was a lot of reading, I read many books, blogs, and websites.  One of the sites I really appreciate for her honesty, talk of also searching and using of types is Anne of Modern Mrs Darcy.  It was through her posts that I finally narrowed down that I was a 4 and not a 9.  I will get into why in another post.  I also then figured out that I was an ENFP and not an INFP.  I narrowed it down letter by letter really.  I just find some of the tests are not easy for me.  I have better results with examining each piece and how it relates to the world and then I can choose.

As I was looking up Anne’s website this morning, I’ve stumbled upon some old posts where she is talking about personality and parenting.  I had forgotten about those!  I’m going back to reread those posts as I’m in the midst of parenting my child who does not easily know himself.

This post started with my thoughts on how, those of us that are cerebral may have a hard time in the knowing of how we react and behave to different scenarios.  This makes the personality tests difficult to complete and not always accurate.  I have many more thoughts and will pick out more coherent pieces to discuss in future posts.  Stay tuned!